I am a Mother, a warrior of Love

“A hundred men may make an encampment, but it takes a mother to make a home.” -Chinese proverb

I AM A MOTHER; A WARRIOR OF LOVE
By Ivonne Delaflor

Dedicated to all the courageous souls battling Eating Disorders, and to the parents, and support team of these beings. May you all never give up and may you all remain anchored in the present moment and strong in your advocacy and support towards a goal of eradicating ED once and for all!

Eating Disorders:

I have discovered your hidden agenda; you are trying to take my child away…

And I, with firmness say THAT WON’T HAPPEN!

You showed up in my family and caught us non-prepared. Distracted by our own avoidance of reality.

How dare you?

What power was that fed you?

Who gave you the access to my home? And mostly, to the mind and heart of my child?

I have seen who you are: You are a dark force, energy without ethics or integrity!

A thief of harmony, a parasite that strategically survives by hurting others, and that joins with those who have heard your echo through others beliefs!

What power do you think you have?

How dare you enter at night in to a heart resting and growing?

How dare you intoxicate the mind of others with your own fragmented field?
How dare you try to take my child away from me?

Haven’t you heard the news yet?

I AM A MOTHER!

And I judge you not…even though I hurt like any mother would for her child.
I fear you not anymore, and I see how you look for energies similar to yours to support your existence here…for you are alone in a world of love and mistakenly looks for company in a dark way.

You are like a Jezebel and I, know this well, will be no Ahab in the archetypal play of consciousness, neither my child! We wont feed YOU with your needs for lacks!

Yet your presence is a gift, as I gather my strength and as fresh water in my face I awaken to see that YOU ARE POWERLESS in the presence of Love.

I come to tell you that you are weak, not strong as you think.

That the words you whisper through manipulating venues are obsolete in the granted gift God bestowed upon me:  the field of absolute advocate and protector of my child, as I AM A MOTHER!

Don’t you dare continue to lurk and hide in what seems an eloquent speech.

You, in this moment on, have NO POWER OVER ME!  I have risen above the seductive vice of your sale pitch, I have revisited my past and let it go…I have forgiven, and have found a well of hope, passion and commitment for change!

I am a MOTHER! Hear me well for in my strength as such I have an inherited legacy of my ancestors to birth and support the human race to continue.

The species have evolved and continue to exist because of me.

What illusory power do you think you have for changing this?
How dare you trying to destroy the most precious gifts of the creator?
You are nothing when I see the light behind you…and when I embrace this light inside of me.

You won’t lure me into blame, guilt or judgment towards another one or myself. For I AM FREE!

You can’t see this, but I CAN.

Your presence is a source and fuel for even more strength to flower in me. I wish I could thank you, yet gratitude is given to the things that in reality exist.

And you are a fabrication of the media, of the ill ethics of humanity; you are a limping leg of the lack of priorities and values experienced in our world right now. You are a product of wounded family systems, and like a crow you feed with the remains of death corpses call blurred emotions.

You seem stronger than any phrase of love, you seem to feed from other beings that have bought shares of the business you offer:  Perfect Body image, weight, a path towards apparent acceptance from society, parents and friends and a desire to have no lines in a face that are the marks of growth, and you have labeled this as “getting closer to death” and have lured other beings in to using knife and toxic things to change what was granted to them by nature.

You have lured men to support you against women self esteem, and have convinced  women to be your clients for substitute placebos of self love.

Yet remember:  those lines you try others to erase, those “imperfections” you try to convince us all with your lies that we have, are what shows the heroic journey of true beauty.

Yet forgive me, for I forgot you don’t know what real beauty is… you are an energy that joins with those who judge others, who demands and never gives. How weak the gang you have gathered is, how ignorant this path you take!  Bullying hostages you take that are the pure, the ones whose future is brilliant, the next generations of my humanity, and the ones who threaten your mere existence!

I say to you again:

I AM A MOTHER! And force such as this you have not met…

And I promise you this:

My voice spoken out loud or in silence will make your walls tremble and fall apart, for I AM a servant of God, and I signed a contract with him to unconditionally love my child, that child you want to take away from me, yet I say with command:

YOU WON’T SUCEEED.

You are yes dark, a manifestation of past choices made in poor wisdom and lack of education and conscious awareness…yet NOW I rise in mindfulness, emotional mastery and regulation, I rise in absolute certainty that my needs wont be met by you and what you have tried to do to my family, to other families, to their children, and to my child.

My tolerance has risen above anything I have met, yet is not offered to you…it is a force for my inner warrior that will continue to walk this path until the waters of despair have been crossed and rejoice in the arrival of the ocean of absolute healing.

I see the heroic journey your victims are undergoing, their fight against you, and they will succeed.

Your vendetta to hold hostages that you have kidnapped in order for your energy to survive is now in the open…it’s a secret no longer! Your tactics are poor, you use the past, you abuse the sacred vessel granted to us by existence call BODY that hosts our souls as a mechanism of distortion… how dare you?

I say NO MORE!

For I declare that I AM A MOTHER!

And no label,
No ally you may have,
No Team you gather,
No words you use…

Will distract me from this mission, this purpose, and this love I experience for the children of humanity!  For my child!

I didn’t come here to fail; I came here with the birthright to succeed, with the power of light, forward movement and determination. I have the training; I have earned the rights to do so, for I have experienced the power of birth! And my ally is integrity!

I won’t do as you do, I won’t repeat mistakes past, for I am changing, I move forward, I actualize myself, I grow…I choose positive beings around me now, I am becoming a model of strength and determination. And YOU WON’T DISTRACT ME!

You have no power over me, and I promise YOU WONT TAKE THE HEART/MIND/BODY of my child away.

For I am a Mother, A warrior of Love.

“Hope is the companion of power, and mother of success; for who so hopes strongly has within him the gift of miracles.”   Samuel Smiles

Ivonne Delaflor
Supporter & Patron of NEDA
National Eating Disorders Association.
Co-Founder of The Higher School for Conscious Evolution &
President of Delaflor Teachings International

Countdown to Middle-Way; The Pregnancy Diaries Blog 2

The First and Noble Truth

Or

28 Weeks & 3 days to go

Hello  again dear reader, how have you been?

Me? Well, thanks for asking… I just have continued with my life…I have been eating lots of mangoes, drinking more water than I could have ever dream of being able to hold in my body, and have been  craving a green flavorless liquid food call chlorophyll…

I have also began a consistent swimming practice suited up for making me feel weightless within the weight fluctuation experiences, and have really enjoyed my new found habit of sleep.

Also, during these past weeks I have come to meet a great friend, its name is WHAT IS. Which regardless of what I think, believe, or do, WHAT IS seems to be there always present for me, always supportive, a great teacher, a great presence, and a great model of its own name!  While pregnancy keeps evolving, the sky continues to be blue, the grass green…my perception may change, and may  label things, people, experiences and places in a very witty way, yet none of this have power over my friend who always kindly reminds me with experience that, what Is, IS, already…so I watch, relax, sometimes choose not to relax, and continue walking my path.

Meditation is the Observation of What is- Unknown

After the last post we received many comments and great advise from other readers perception field, WOW, I never cease to be amazed on the vastness of the creator on giving each of us the source will or FREE WILL (more popularly known) to perceive, say,project, think, and believe what we choose to…cheers for diversity!

Within the sharing lots of contemplation were done on my behalf…specially regarding THE MIDDLE-WAY which each time I hear these words I immediately hear drums, chimes and gong thunder- like sounds in the background of my awareness!

A dear friend of mine who serve as a Tibetan monk for many years told me that this “MIDDLE-WAY” was intended to be easy…smooth and non complicated, he shared that the teachings were all convoluted as many “tried” to describe the simplicity of what Buddha experienced into a complex form. “Mmmm don’t we all do this every day of our lives?”… Any way, he shared with me about the Four Noble Truths, The Noble Eightfold Path and the Four Immeasurables and told me to study those if I desired to “know” more on THE MIDDLE-WAY (drums in the background again!)

Hold on! I thought the Middle Way was as simple as to observe, detach, breathe, and observe again…without judgment and or labeling of the experience…not even label pregnancy as such, nor reading, not even dividing a wholeness continuum process by statements like first, second or third trimester…not even saying: NOT EVEN!

Yet I was presented with these sacred texts and studies and in my complex choices I decided to read and meditate upon them….

I began with the Four Immeasurables which seemed short, more practical, and in a way easier to meditate upon…yet I wonder; Is action aligned with those truths as simple as it seems?

Lets take a look:

First of all I wanted to define what Immeasurable really meant: I First search in an online dictionary which reported: ENTRY NOT FOUND! Mmmmmm already the teaching in action…I remained focus on the principle SEEK AND THOU SHALL FIND and it worked

Second dictionary:

* impossible to measure; “unmeasurable reaches of outer space”

Third dictionary:

* incomputable: beyond calculation or measure; “of incalculable value”; “an incomputable amount”; “jewels of inestimable value”; “immeasurable wealth”

As my mind got a “definition of the word” it immediately associated it with life, vastness, sky, ocean, sand, and …thoughts! And also the capacity of one heart to love another, when  absolute unconditionality is experienced.

The first Immeasurable states:

MAY ALL BEINGS HAVE HAPPINESS AND THE CAUSES OF HAPPINESS

Without any previous Buddhist training, I began contemplating and relating it to pregnancy, which is the main intention of this particular blog, and could feel how deeply I  wished this for all,  just by common sense, and the prayer that all beings, all children, all future generations, and NOW generations experience happiness as a state of being that I have always believed is created by the choices and actions we are responsible to embrace every day…it all just seems a natural way of being.

In a way the First Immeasurable says to me:

May all beings choose happiness, and act upon actions, words and deeds that will birth happiness

Choosing actions of love, generosity, non-judgment, and acceptance of “is-ness” with one another truly creates for me worthy causes to live within the birthright of all human beings to experience the “Happiness sate of being” where cause and effect are aligned towards the higher good of all sentient beings.

I must say that Mr. Siddhartha Gautama was truly a motivator of his time! And in such simple way…His wish and prayer seems to me to be an assignment for the minds to focus on this directive and align all thoughts aimed to the purpose of happiness which for me, without religious training, seems THE WAY  TO GO.

So in my week 12th of this sacred pregnancy I find myself observing and experiencing different opportunities to practice the first Immeasurable. I am told that my uterus is now the size of a grapefruit, surely in the outside perception seems like a basketball size!…then I am told  that a sort of migration process is occurring; the uterus is traveling from the bottom of my pelvis to a front and center position of my abdomen. WOW!? My mind also spots the word CENTER and seems to like it…

Then I am told something that seems not to fit in all these “studies” that I have committed to observe while pregnant and beyond: They say ” IF YOU ARE LUCKY, “IF” then the urge to go the bathroom every hour will be easing and coming to completion” “Again this all is good for the baby and not for the Mother”

Hold on beliefs! I am not concerned of the bathroom visits, or the “urges”. For me those are natural process of what is,  plus I get the opportunity to be awake, walk , stretch my legs and go back to bed! Yet I feel unease with the urge of  “doctors” choosing words like  IF +LUCK in the same sentence as for me this summons me  as a Woman Representative of Pregnant-hood to say out loud: I CHOOSE NOT TO BELIEVE IN LUCK and beliefs like that…as what would be will be and I wish you happiness and the cause of happiness:). So please choose your words wisely, mindfully and joyfully…and when in doubt, silence is something in the Pregnant-hood state we dearly welcome!

Then they continue to report:

“Morning sickness may be disappearing at this point”. HOLD ON AGAIN!  Who chose to label that as Morning Sickness? When did we agree to call it like “that”? Why programming pregnant Goddessess with those words that carry within the definition of sick added to the beginning of a great day call morning?

At this point as I hear these words I am repeating in my mind: May you be happy and experience all causes of happiness and may you also change your words! Then I mentally suggest new names for the so call “condition”, my preference is to call it Morning BLISS, and any feeling of pregnancy judged as  yikes! just to be seen as a reminder of pregnancy itself…that’s all, and no sickness for me; thank you very much!

Yes, in my mind I find myself editing the Buddha’s words! Gulp! Yet again, I feel he probably wont be offended as he wouldn’t take anything personal living the middle-way…right?:)

So then the news continues: “In the third trimester you should blame increased progesterone for what is going to happen to you: you will start getting DIZZY”.

Wait, did you just say BLAME? Blaming my own inner system? thank you and no… then I ask myself  Really, I WILL start getting dizzy?  You a psychic? Or, That well you think you know God’s plan? ….I prefer not to know..as usually his plans are greater than anything I can even imagine!!!

They say dizzy, light headed…and I say: O.K  what comes comes…So far haven’t experienced that…and have no aversion towards experiencing anything that reminds me the gift of being pregnant.

Then I hear words that make sense to me: The Doctor suggests REMEMBER THAT SLOW AND STEADY WINS THE RACE… I immediately take this as a directive from the benevolent universe being channeled through the Doctor, as it sees my ongoing questioning of the beliefs offered to me to sign up into the outdated  belief system business!  Ahhh the Universe gifts me these words to   use for  my meditation practice…taking one step at a time, slowing down, breathing, watching, taking action mindfully;  now these make sense, thanks Doc…or shall I say; Thank You Universe!?  You Rock!

Then it gets better and better,  he/it says:

“If you feel dizzy or faint, just sit down, close your eyes and begin taking deep breaths, use loose clothing, and relax”.

Wow! My first assignment that matches the first immeasurable:

May all beings have happiness and the causes of happiness.

Then they continue explaining me now what the baby is going through, in his own path as a being…he /she weights as much as half and ounce, his digestive system is in practice mode for when he/she is born, his pituitary gland is already producing hormones, the bone marrow is making white blood cells, she has doubled in size and going through changes! WOW AND MEGA WOW again!

And within it all I just hear one word behind all of these reports: CREATION.

I sigh and relax in gratefulness.  This is when my heart rejoices even more, when all words vanquish, and where truly I can  breathe without getting dizzy, or fainting…and where from my heart I imagine all Mothers, all Fathers and all children  inside the womb and outside the womb on  Earth smiling and singing together:

MAY ALL BEINGS HAVE HAPPINESS AND THE CAUSES OF HAPPINESS and may all women and their pregnancies be infused with immeasurable radiant golden light, divine support, equanimity, love ,compassion,  joy,  and the easiness and is-ness and love from all THAT IS….

Namaste,

To be continued….

Countdown To Middle Way…

COUNTDOWN TO MIDDLE WAY

or

Thirty Weeks & Zero Days to Go

by Ivonne Delaflor(c)

Dear Reader:

I am currently journeying what the Doctors have labeled as “my first Trimester” of a sacred pregnancy; dates have been given to me based on linear time , which my mind chooses to believe in as  a  useful guidance  for the time management obsession I am  currently  indulging in.

I have been told that I am in a Countdown of   30 weeks 0 days towards the day I get to meet eye to eye the being that is already growing inside of me!  I have been told that the estimated due date is February 11, 2011. Reports on the baby size:  they tell me the baby is exactly like a PRUNE!  My mind stops for a moment; what you mean? I am birthing a fruit?  I remember being pregnant and having already two wonderful children, which seem to like fruits yet not look like one.  Immediately I research and find out the magical properties of this label being placed on a being growing inside of me:

“Prunes promote good digestive health. Prunes are renowned as a mild, folkloric laxative, and ancient Egyptian and Greek physicians once prescribed prunes to patients with gastrointestinal problems. Because prunes are loaded with fiber and natural laxatives, they help in correcting and encouraging regular bowel movements. But a 2007 edition of Nutrition Research published that prune juice, although lacking in fiber, contains stool-softening sorbitol, and is thus as effective a laxative as the fruit itself. Sorbitol also remains in the intestines, and acts as a mild antibacterial and cleansing agent, to promote good digestion.  Prunes are a satiating fruit with a moderate glycemic index. The soluble fiber in prunes helps normalize blood sugars and increases insulin sensitivity, which plays a major role in treating type 2 diabetes. The studies also determined that prune bars and juices provided a great, prolonged source of energy, comparable to sport or power bars. Prunes make great filling snacks, and can help curb weight gain”. Paola Fannutti

Then I am told that this delicious fruit, inside of my body is as big as  3.81 cm. WOW! I am amazed at the capacity to measure miracles with numbers!

Pure mathematics is, in its way, the poetry of logical ideas.  ~Albert Einstein

Within the 3D my body is changing in ways that I can only imagine an alchemist accomplishing. People report upon sighting of my new body  interesting reactions: like “OH  WOW” ” OH MY!” ” HOW IS IT POSSIBLE?” “HOW BIG!” “HOW ROUND” “HOW RARE!”

I sometimes indulge in responding, sometimes I just seem to nod in what seems agreement, yet the truth is that I find myself in an ecstatic impartial response, truly enjoying what the changes are…as what is, seems to be the best place to be right now…labeling the experience  as big,  small, etc..seems to remove proper credit from the magnificence am currently experiencing, so I have decided that my intention for the Pregnancy and beyond is the absolute focus on what the Buddhists call  the  Middle Way. This decision came after asking myself a question:

I wonder: if the BUDDHA WAS pregnant, what would his approach be?

The answer came smoothly and easy through an inner voice that whispered: I would just follow the way of the middle.

This intention comes handy as information floods to me right now:  I am told  that my abdomen at this stage will probably protrude a bit now… A BIT?????? wait  a minute!  Really?  Truly,  perception shifts as each individual holds reality in a unique and different way!   As I am about to say: A BIT? ARE YOU KIDDING ME? A higher voice in me  reminds me of my intent: THE MIDDLE WAY IVONNE, FOCUS ON THE MIDDLE WAY. REMEMBER THIS IS YOUR INTENTION DURING YOUR PREGNANCY AND BEYOND.

And then I remember one of my favorite quotes:

Intention is Vested With Power-Unknown

I seem to listen to the voice, which seems to have TONS OF MORAL AUTHORITY! and again, I am told that a hormone call progesterone will rise high levels of its effects in me…which then I am told that is really great for the baby! Yeah!!!! but not that good for the MOM! Awwwww.  Again: the VOICE: “MIDDLE WAY IVONNE” “MIDDLE WAY”

Then I am told the baby, which for some strange reason in the medical realm is called a FETUS… (for me as a mother, this label is beyond comprehension,  I do not like the sound of this word…as  for me I am already carrying a child, a sacred being.. a tiny little guru) at his current state of growth his/her body is strengthening, her torso lengthening…( sounds like a yoga pose to me!) he stretches, she does somersaults, and forward rolls.  Wow!  the first information that makes sense to me!  The womb sounds like a FUN PLACE TO BE..what an ecstatic time this sacred being is having already…I AM COMMITTED to support in the fullness of my abilities the fun and bliss to continue.   And while the play- ground is inside of me, I remain with one pointed focus on my intent; which “THE  VOICE”  CONSISTENTLY REPEATS: THE MIDDLE WAY, THE MIDDLE WAY…

Which of course, as all intentions, goals, and determined desire for manifestation will bring forth the necessary environment for PRACTICE, which will be tested in different areas; for example the one of CRAVINGS. As the cravings fluctuate from extremely healthy balanced diet; fruits sprinkled with cayenne pepper and lemon, to a particular circular bread with a hole in the center called DOUGHNUT also known as “K.K”,  I experience the realm of polarities!    It is in these moments where the VOICE tries to remind me of my commitment even LOUDER, yet  the “cravings” seem to have a stronger sound system that makes the VOICE sound like a whisper, while the cravings take the form of a beautiful Opera Singer, offering her tune within the forest of enlightenment, producing states of bliss and fullness within the emptiness of what is.

And what, monks, is the Middle Way realized by the Thus-Come-One, which gives vision and understanding, which leads to calm, penetration, enlightenment, to Nirvana?
It is just this Noble Eightfold Path, namely: Right View, Right Intention, Right Speech, Right Action, Right Livelihood, Right Effort, Right Mindfulness, and Right Concentration . – Buddha

To be continued…

Ivonne Delaflor

Co-Founder of Sacred Baby Steps, www.sacredbabysteps.com

Founder  & Creator of the Transcendental Rebirthing System, www.transcendentalrebirthing.com.

THE JOURNEY BEGINS

What a surprise! What a miracle! What an unexpected turn once again in my life in to the goodness of life.

When we started the creation of the website Sacred Baby Steps, it was our intention to support Parents TO BE, Current Parents, Mothers, Fathers and their children to receive tools that will support all areas of the human experience from pre-conception, conception, birth and so on.
I had personally ALWAYS believe though, that the most powerful tool that one has to support others with and offer guidance if required is through the portal of MODELING.
To live the experience, and share beyond the words with one’s own words, thoughts and actions aligned within the integrity and higher principles of what ONE pretends to serve as or teach.
Well, existence has gifted me with this opportunity; to model…as a couple of weeks ago I found myself receiving the greatest of news:
I AM PREGNANT.
I have two wonderful young gurus already; a daughter (12) and a son (10)…
It is my intent as I walk through this magnificent portal and gift existence is allowing me to experience again, tol share tools and personal sharing, sort of reality TV but in the shape of a blog with the intention to increase awareness of the miracle that is to witness the creation of life and become a beholder, a guardian of this creation.

I believe that pregnancy happens at many levels, regardless of sexes or creeds. Birth and rebirth can occur in a business, in a family, in a society, in the community and the whole world.  Of course, I am enjoying that my process is quite physical, and all the little gifts that accompany this experience:) (like craving spicy sauce and mangoes!)
My intention is then to walk through and share this pregnancy with you all one sacred baby step at a time, in a fun and honest way that can motivate you or others to birth the awareness that creation is happening this very moment, that as ancestors of our future generations we deserve to rise and step up as a humanity of love, and that we MUST increase our awareness, our consciousness, and our loving ways towards one another so we can become the LIVING MODELS that without words say to our children: IT IS A BLESSING BEING A HUMAN BEING…and it is also FUN!.

Namaste
Ivonne Delaflor
Co-Founder
Sacred Baby Step
www.sacredbabysteps.com

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